Self-care Sunday

March 15, 2009

I picked up Cheryl Richardson’s The Art of Extreme Self-Care
on and began reading it today. Right off, in chapter one – End The Legacy of Deprivation, I realized this would be another of her powerful books.

As I read I became aware of my behavior over the last few months since Steve’s diagnosis of prostate cancer. I thought I had been dealing well; rationalizing this was not a death sentence, only another challenge in life. But as I read about Cheryl’s own experiences of flitting from one thing to another, creating multitudes of to-do lists and over-eating to stuff feelings, uneasiness crept into my spirit. An awareness that I had begun to fall back into old patterns of self-deprivation began to grow.

Cheryl states “over giving is often a sign of deprivation – a signal that a need isn’t being met, an emotion isn’t being expressed, or a void isn’t being filled.”

Memories of a time when I lived in extreme over commitment flooded my mind. My children suffered, an 8-year marriage dissolved, and several friendships were broken because of my over giving.

Like Cheryl, I too have discovered that “awareness is a powerful catalyst for positive change.” She challenges the reader to spend the next 30 days becoming skilled at recognizing the ways we deprive ourselves.

Cheryl, I accept your challenge. I rededicate Sunday’s to my own personal self-care.

Sunday brunch with Steve is our time to just be with each other. Afternoons are my time for spiritual introspection. Here I also find time to plan and coordinate my weekly activities. I devote this time to review my calendar, check my wardrobe for the week, and pre-prep any breakfasts/lunches that must travel with me during the week.

Sunday evenings I’ll spend some quality time in our wonderful spa tub, making sure to provide my body some much needed pampering. Then a quiet dinner with Steve will round out the day.

Some Sunday’s – like today – Steve is at the model train club repairing track or what-not, so I have additional time for reading and writing.

Thank you Cheryl for the reminder to take time for my own needs, ask for help, appreciate my own accomplishments, and make my own self-care a priority.